Dr. John Gottman discovered four steps that signal the progression toward divorce and refers to them as the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Recognizing the appearance of the Four Horsemen during your conflicts is an essential first step to eliminating them.
For the past 6 months I have been interning at a treatment center for substance abuse. Our center offers outpatient and intensive outpatient (day treatment several days a week) primarily to people who have been court-mandated to seek treatment. There are several...
I'm Uncomfortably Numb When I was supervising students in the Couple and Family Therapy program at The University of Maryland in the Fall of 2017, I had a slightly disturbing experience. It was Monday, October 2nd and I was the nighttime supervisor on site at the...
You may have heard a quote from the ancient Greek philosopher, Heroclitus that, “There is nothing permanent except change.” Or maybe, you’ve come across - a little more recently, “Change is the only constant in life”, Benjamin Franklin. Whether you want things to...
Let’s cut right to the chase. The answer: The most important mistake you’re making when you fight with your family member is… …being lost in your own protective emotions, many of which reliably keep your attention aimed on the other person. You get sucked into...
